All I want for the Holidays are Boundaries!
Let’s face it, the holidays can be tough. No matter how much internal work we’ve done, no matter how many of our shadows we’ve transformed, being around family brings out the triggers. Family knows us too well. They hold a key to our hearts and our pain, with access to the deepest recesses of our souls. Old childhood patterns come out and we lose ourselves.
It sounds nice to have boundaries. The idea makes sense, but how do we put up boundaries? It feels confrontational to block people out, especially loved ones. There are several ways to create healthy, strong, and loving boundaries; protecting yourself while still being available to those you love.
Before getting together, make sure you are completely centered.
Ground. Feel the support of the earth. Spend time outside.
Breathe and quiet your mind. Either use movement (exercise, walk, dance, etc) or meditation to release chaotic thoughts.
Center at your heart. Feel your own heart resonance. Bring your thoughts to your heart so they can be felt.
Shields Up! Imagine a strong field around you, at least 3 feet in every direction. Set the intention that only love can enter this field, and only love can come out. Other people’s energy can simply be reflected back to them. It is their energy, not yours to hold.
Release other people’s energy. Imagine a vacuum cleaner rose in front of you. Turn on the vacuum and suction out other people’s energy from your field and body. When complete, send that rose out into the universe and watch it explode! The energy will be transmuted by the light.
For short 5-10 minute meditations related to boundaries, follow the below link. These were recorded during my weekly meditations, and available to you as an offering of health and love. May these visualizations help you to maintain balance, clarity, and a focus on the Heart this holiday season.
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1nlsy-S_2rTCsAp2Nt_573U-iuSNrELxc?usp=sharing
